Life After Ours

the things we finally have words for

Stories about recognition, rebuilding, healing, co-parenting, starting over, and the moments that finally made sense in hindsight.

Life After Ours

I Laughed Harder Than I Had in Years

We hired a driver to take us an hour away and spent the whole day out — wine bar, brunch, a speakeasy at the end. And somewhere in the middle...

I Laughed Harder Than I Had in Years

We hired a driver to take us an hour away and spent the whole day out — wine bar, brunch, a speakeasy at the end. And somewhere in the middle...

His Parenting Time Became My Recovery Time

For months, his parenting time was something to be endured. Then, slowly, it became the only reliable block of hours in her life that belonged to nobody but her —...

His Parenting Time Became My Recovery Time

For months, his parenting time was something to be endured. Then, slowly, it became the only reliable block of hours in her life that belonged to nobody but her —...

She Didn't Realize How Tired She Was

She expected to feel lighter. Instead she slept eleven hours and woke up tired. The exhaustion didn't arrive while she was surviving it — it arrived after, when there was...

She Didn't Realize How Tired She Was

She expected to feel lighter. Instead she slept eleven hours and woke up tired. The exhaustion didn't arrive while she was surviving it — it arrived after, when there was...

The Guilt Came Right After the Relief

The relief came first. It arrived somewhere around the second hour — a loosening in her shoulders she hadn't asked for and didn't expect. And then, almost immediately behind it,...

The Guilt Came Right After the Relief

The relief came first. It arrived somewhere around the second hour — a loosening in her shoulders she hadn't asked for and didn't expect. And then, almost immediately behind it,...

Parenting Got Easier When I Stopped Parenting M...

People assumed it would be harder. She braced for harder. And then the first month passed and the house was calmer than it had been in years, and she had...

Parenting Got Easier When I Stopped Parenting M...

People assumed it would be harder. She braced for harder. And then the first month passed and the house was calmer than it had been in years, and she had...

The First Weekend I Didn't Have My Kids

The first weekend without my children did not feel like free time. It felt like somewhere I was supposed to be. Nobody tells you that the hardest part isn't the...

The First Weekend I Didn't Have My Kids

The first weekend without my children did not feel like free time. It felt like somewhere I was supposed to be. Nobody tells you that the hardest part isn't the...

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